Phantom ParentsDavid Enker

Phantom Parents

I created a 200-page book with a compilation of my work up until about 2020. The proof copy I just received from ezbook.nl looks great! Now it is time to reach out. Let’s try that crowdfunding thing!       CROWDFUNDING…
Underwater sculpture by the British artist Jason deCaires TaylorJason deCaires Taylor

What is going on…?

The run-up to the diagnosis   At first I thought my “problems” were because of my adoption. It wasn't.   Maybe it was the “Jewish trauma” that haunted my ancestors..? Do not think so.   Then I…
Underwater sculpture by the British artist Jason deCaires TaylorJason deCaires Taylor

Wat is er aan de hand…?

De aanloop naar de diagnose   Eerst dacht ik dat mijn “problemen” door mijn adoptie kwamen. Dat was het niet.   Misschien was het het “Joodse trauma” dat mijn voorouders achtervolgde..? Denk het niet.   Toen…
light in darknessDavid Enker

Trauma and Healing

Recently I had my second conversation with Simon Benn of the Thriving Adoptees Podcast. You can listen to it here (7 Dec 2023). The first one (23 Aug 2023) is here. In addition to the profound pre-verbal trauma associated with adoption…
David Enker

The Angel’s Advocate

It’s always the devil that gets all the credit. In fiction, he’s the one with the booze, the drugs, the women. He is disguised as a handsome man, someone who seems sure of himself and knows all the ways of the world. He can get away with…
David Enker

A healthy mind in a healthy body (& vice versa)

If there ever is a key to a perfect health and happiness I'd love to use it, but in the meantime this is what I've come up with: 1. Sleep It's not about the quantity but rather about the quality. Fresh air in the bedroom, good pillow and…

The Age of Anxiety

There is no word in the Dutch language for ‘anxiety’. There are words that come close, like ‘worried’, ‘concerned’, ‘fearful’ or ‘scared’, but none of them come close to the dreadful experience of actual, real anxiety. Does…